When talking to a shy person, it is important to follow certain guidelines so that you don’t intimidate or discourage them intimidate or discourage them while trying to have them open up to you.
Approach in a non – threatening manner, with a smiling, friendly expression.
Limit questions
When you do ask questions, avoid ones that are personal.
Be patient
Listen carefully to their answers and give positive feedback, such as, “That’s an interesting way of looking at it!
Look for topics that seem to an Gage your friend.
Encourage them to feel comfortable with you so they will trust you.
Invite them to do something with you.
Express a positive impression of interacting with them.
Don’t talk to them like they are stupid or weak.
Don’t stare at them or tease them about their shyness.
Tips
Speak in a soft or well – modulated voice, but still be loud enough to be heard clearly. If the shy person is talking very quietly or mumbling, talking loudly to them won’t help anything, and it may actually intimidate them into speaking even less clearly
Give them space. There is a certain distance for every person that they do not feel comfortable with others entering inside. Shy people almost always need more room, at least until they get to know you. If they tense or flinch when you come close to them, you've crossed the line. Take a step or two back.
Recognize that almost everyone is shy in some situations. Empathize with your shy friends; think of a time when you had to give a speech in class or talk to a group of people you didn't know. Remembered difficult It is, and appreciate their efforts.
Try to stick to subjects having to do with where you are at the time.
Don’t pressure a shy person to contribute to a group conversation.
Shy people are usually sweet and nice people and sometimes sensitive. Don’t mess with them even as a joke because it might still hurt their feelings. Try to be genuinely nice, and they ‘ll usually be the same way back.
Calling attention to the person’s shyness can make them feel uncomfortable.
A lot of shy people prefer to work alone, so don’t pressure them to work with someone else. Also, ask the person if they would like to work with you, they will most likely say sure. If ‘s just easier to say sure or okay. Don’t be offended if they actually tell you that they prefer to work alone though.
Be confident, but not overbearing.
Shy people tend to choose their words with care. When they say something, be sure to listen, and then think about what they said and the inflection they used before responding.
Many shy people have another side to them. If you happen to make friends with them, you may find that are loud, fun, and funny.
Keep in mind that shyness is usually not a choice. Some people learn to be shy. Get over your shyness if you truly want to. It will not happen overnight but by doing something socially challenging everyday. The choice is yours.
Warnings
Avoid touching them, at least until you become good friends.
If a shy person happens to find you attractive, he or she might take your interest in them as being more than just friendly conversation. Make sure you don’t give this impression. Some shy people may develop a very long term crush or even fall in love with you and not let you know for months or even years. If you suspect your shy friend might be attracted to you and you do not feel the same it as clear as possible early on. You will save them a lot of pain.
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